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I Don’t Know About You, But I’m Feeling…33?

This October marks my 33rd year around the sun. While I know there's still plenty of life ahead,


it's clear that things are changing. I've added retinol to my skincare routine, struggle to name five current musicians, and consider any event past 8 pm a "late night." Growing up, I never saw 33 as a pivotal year, but it's proving to be one of the most transitional phases of my life so far.


Let me clarify - turning 32 was undeniably significant. 


Last April, my husband and I were blessed with twin girls, and for the first eight months of their lives, I dedicated myself entirely to being a stay-at-home mom. It was unquestionably the most challenging experience I've ever faced, with days that felt insurmountable. Balancing the constant demands of caring for two infants left me overwhelmed, exhausted, and often anxious - the weight of keeping not one but two tiny humans thriving was immense.


I found myself grappling with a persistent question: Shouldn't I be reveling in the role of a stay-at-home mom? Influenced by social media and my long-held perceptions of motherhood, I had expected this to be my calling. Yet, instead of fulfillment, I felt a gradual erosion of my identity. After many heartfelt discussions (and tears), I made the decision to return to work. Ultimately, I chose to venture into self-employment—a path I had never explored. Previously, my career had been defined by roles in public school education, where I spent a decade teaching art, followed by three years at a small consulting firm. 


The decision stemmed from my need for flexibility to support my family and prioritize my well-being. It was crucial for me to find a position that allowed me autonomy over my schedule, workspace, and earnings.


So, as the days barrel towards 33, life looks very different from how I envisioned it a decade ago. My definitions of success and happiness have shifted. I’m about to launch my own LLC for admin services and have started to consider creating another for private art lessons. I’m working from the comfort of my own home and balancing the complexities of parenthood with those of my professional career.


Image from New York Times

In a recent article from The New York Times titled "The New 33-Year-Olds: How Millennials Are Changing Midlife," the evolving dynamics and aspirations of millennials as they enter their mid-thirties are explored in depth. This piece resonates deeply with many of us who are navigating the complexities of adulthood amidst a rapidly changing economic and social landscape.


For millennials, turning 33 marks a significant milestone—a time when many of us are reassessing career trajectories, financial goals, and personal aspirations. The article highlights how this generation, often characterized by

its resilience in the face of economic challenges like student debt and the Great Recession, is now reshaping what midlife looks like.


One of the central themes discussed is the shift towards entrepreneurship and freelance work among millennials in their thirties. With technological advancements and a growing preference for work-life balance, many are choosing to pursue independent careers that align more closely with their passions and values. This trend reflects a desire for greater autonomy and flexibility, challenging traditional notions of career stability.


Moreover, the article underscores the diverse paths millennials are forging in terms of homeownership, family planning, and financial investments. Contrary to previous generations, millennials are approaching these milestones on their own timelines, often prioritizing experiences and personal growth over traditional markers of success.


As someone who falls within this demographic, I find the insights shared in the article both validating and inspiring. It reinforces the notion that it's okay to take non-linear paths in life and embrace change as a constant. Whether we're pursuing entrepreneurial ventures, further education, or simply redefining success on our own terms, the journey of navigating adulthood in our thirties is one of resilience and adaptability.


Ultimately, "The New 33-Year-Olds" challenges us to rethink conventional norms and to celebrate the diversity of experiences and choices within our generation. It encourages us to embrace uncertainty with courage and optimism, knowing that each decision we make contributes to our personal and professional growth.


As millennials continue to redefine what it means to be in our thirties, we are reshaping industries, challenging societal expectations, and paving the way for a more inclusive and dynamic future. 


Let's embrace this journey of self-discovery and transformation, knowing that our choices today will shape the world of tomorrow.



Let's continue the conversation—what are your thoughts on the evolving roles and aspirations of millennials in their thirties?

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